Did you feel like something was wrong with you?BIRBIGLIA: Yeah. So during the day, he was gone all day.And so I feel like, in those months, Oona and I, you know, got very close.

We're going to get back to you on that.GROSS: OK. And at one point, she's eating, like, three hot dogs, and she looks up to me and she says, I feel like I understand you now.BIRBIGLIA: And I said, I think that's a little bit offensive. And - but you have a really beautiful poem about - it's called "Body, I Never Knew I Could Love You."

And then we just had our anniversary. And now you go into death (laughter). And I guess I didn't know at that point. Click here to find out how to create lists of items to request later. Ocean Springs, MS ... New Hope, PA; 1 2 3. And that's not just a father thing. It's a parent thing. It seems so obvious to me now, but I really wasn't really connected to my body. Like, you have this great book and show that you did as a result of becoming a father, and, Jen, you have these great poems about being a mother. And I said, which - by the way - gets you nothing.

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Hope Stein.The baby had trouble sleeping at first. I mean, I think that in the first 13 months, which is where the book mostly takes place, I felt like all of the things that I had thought, all the seven reasons I never wanted to have a child, I was right about it. It's on hold for a year and that's - we rescheduled our book tour, which was going to be a 15 or 20 city tour, and it's rescheduled for next spring.

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And I actually put a chain lock on the inside so that I couldn't get out because I was, you know - and then Mazzy, our cat, would sleep in that room with me.

"After months of conversation, Birbiglia's outlook began to shift: "I just felt like, well, [Jen] is my life partner. And then, you know, he was shooting a film. Our interviews and reviews are produced and edited by Amy Salit, Phyllis Myers, Sam Briger, Lauren Krenzel, Heidi Saman, Thea Chaloner, Seth Kelley and Joel Wolfram. First time visiting Audible? But I also feel like, in a different set of circumstances or in different era, they might not be together. What if the economy dives and we have no money for food or a natural disaster or the dictator comes to power or some kind of attack or - how will I feed her?GROSS: Jen, did pregnancy and childbirth and how it changed your feelings about your body, did those feelings remain?


I was just feeling pretty much just like a person. We'll be back after a break. But it's true. And then here I am in my 40s and I'm back at the Brooklyn YMCA swimming laps because my doctor says, you know, you're - you know, I failed the pulmonary test.

I don't feel like we're that far apart because he's so vocal, and we can actually talk about it, and we're not - I'm not wondering about it.BIRBIGLIA: There's a joke in the book where I say, Jen is an introvert, and I'm an extrovert. I mean, I was really - I became a mother pretty late in life. And so there was a question of, are we going to figure things out or not? And we had agreed on that.

And then with COVID, of course, I'm going to have to write extensively about how that affects how we feel about death because, again, it's all around us and it's - yeah. With laugh-out-loud funny parenting observations, the New York Times best-selling author and award-winning comedian delivers a book that is perfect for anyone who has ever raised a child, been a child, or refuses to stop acting like one.. We'll be back after a break. Like, I'm being, you know, painfully and darkly honest in a way that I think that we should all be to each other because I think that when you're honest with people who you love - ultimately, even if it's painful in the short term - in the long term, it makes you even closer.

So I knew he didn't want to. And I still can. And I sort of felt like I started to have a connection to her early, not knowing if she was going to make it or not.And then, you know, as far as Mike and I, I feel like we were very close in this time, and his feelings about not wanting to be a father - I didn't hear that a lot from him.

But I really did feel like there was something that I didn't know that we - that Mike and I would develop in terms of, like, we developed a really beautiful love, I thought, and our house sort of had a beautiful love to it, and I felt like we had something to offer to a child. Copyright 2020 PeekYou.com.

I'll say it just once and only to myself.

Mike had to lock himself in the bedroom to protect the baby from his sleepwalking, which meant if the baby woke up, it's all on you.STEIN: Yeah. Sorry. And Jen's pointing out this thing that it is similar to the first 13 months of having Oona. So I know you were very concerned through the pregnancy that something could go wrong, and then you found out you had hypermobile hips, which meant that, during childbirth, you could possibly dislocate or even break a hip. You know, it was terrifying.STEIN: I was.

Early 60s . Birbiglia has done it again in his new book "The New One: Painfully True Stories From A Reluctant Dad." Get this book free when you sign up for a 30-day Trial. It didn't fall apart.His wife Jen Stein, who writes under the name J. But I could feel it.